Close your eyes. Think back to your last job. Maybe it was the job before last. It just might be the job you have right now. Don’t say it out loud, but who was your worst boss ever? Why does this person meet the qualification? What is your most unpleasant memory about working with this individual? The most important questions are next: What did you do or are you doing about this behavior? How do you handle it? Have you said anything? Have your actions been successful? This conversation that we are having was prompted by an actual incident which occurred by an employee in a terrible employment situation. She took matters into her own hands, going to what I might describe as a witch doctor and securing a concoction called Boss Be Gone. She proceeded to saturate his office with this mixture spreading it on his desk, coffee cup, and snacks! In her mind she thought it would create a situation that would cause her boss to magically get fired or have a series of events that might prompt him to quit the job allowing her to be free from his reign of terror. What could of instead happened was, she could have made him sick or even killed him! (who knows what was in that stuff!) I have to assume that YOU won’t go to such extreme efforts in an attempt to rectify a disagreeable work situation; however I would like to discuss some tips that might help you in an uncomfortable job scenario (not to mention keep you out of prison!)
1.) Stand Up For Yourself - I didn’t say drop to their level or put your job in jeopardy by being insubordinate. I often tell my clients that it is your responsibility to teach others how to treat you. So long as you are doing your job and meeting or exceeding reasonable expectations you have every right to calmly and professionally state your case. Most bullies gain their power from never having anyone stand up to them. You may actually earn their respect by not cowering down. The key here is to maintain your professionalism and document your interactions.
2.) Keep It On a ‘Need to Know’ Basis – It feels good to participate in every conversation that criticizes the bad boss right? They have earned every insult and gossiping exchange with their inappropriate behavior, so we think. Maintaining your professionalism requires you to be the bigger person and not add fuel to an already tense situation by doing what your other co-workers might already be doing. Don’t get me wrong, if a person has an abusive personality, your silence won’t reform them. However, you don’t want to give them, or your upper management, any reason to believe that you have provoked this behavior.
3.) Talk to the Right People - Although it may be improper to have water cooler chats about the bad boss with your peers, there may come a time when you have to have a talk. This talk needs to be with your human resource manager or equivalent role in your company. Filing a formal complaint might be one of the only options you have when the actions of your boss prove to remain unsuitable. As previously mentioned, you’ll want to document any situations that leave a bad taste in your mouth. There is no guarantee that this will cause your boss to see the light, but at least you’ll have your ducks in a row when you have the conversation with HR.
4.) Make the Move – Although there are many other steps that I could include, this is but a brief article. You may be saying “I have done all of the these steps as well as others that seemed relevant to changing this situation.” If you have had little to no improvement, you may need to consider moving on to a position that not only appreciates your experience, but also enables you to enjoy your work. When seeking out this new role, check out the potential employers social media sites to see what kind of culture is promoted there. Research previous employees comments on sites like Glassdoor.com. Conduct searches on LinkedIn to chat with others who have worked at the company to determine if they had favorable experiences working there.
There is no way to know if you’ll find workplace satisfaction until you start your job, but some of these tips may at least give you a better shot at getting a job you love working with people you like!
Instead of seeking out your local witch doctor to get your can of Boss Be Gone, if you’d like to have a chat about your current job drama and how to improve your career scenario, contact me at www.tishtimes.com for a complimentary get acquainted session. Trust me, this is a much better (and legal) option!
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